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Resilience Is Futile
The Life and Death and Life of Julie S. Lalonde
By (author): Julie S. Lalonde
Julie S. Lalonde


Between the Lines - Toronto



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Paperback , Trade


General Trade
Feb 27, 2020
$23.95 CAD


8.5in x 5.5 x 0.45 in | 271 gr

Page Count:

192 pages
Between the Lines
SOCIAL SCIENCE / Feminism & Feminist Theory
Autobiography: general|Sexual abuse and harassment|Gender studies: women and girls
Legislative Assembly of Ontario Speaker's Book Award 2020, Winner Foreword INDIES Book of the Year Award, Autobiography and Memoir Adult Non-fiction 2020, Short-listed Independent Publisher Book Award Silver Medalist, Women's Issues 2021, Winner
  • Short Description
Fleeing intimate partner violence at age twenty, Julie S. Lalonde was stalked by her ex-partner for over ten years. Resilience Is Futile is a memoir of survival, courage, and hope. But it is also a challenge to the ways we understand trauma and resilience.

For over a decade, Julie Lalonde, an award-winning advocate for women’s rights, kept a secret.

She crisscrossed the country, denouncing violence against women and giving hundreds of media interviews along the way. Her work made national headlines for challenging universities and taking on Canada’s top military brass. Appearing fearless on the surface, Julie met every interview and event with the same fear in her gut: was he there?

Fleeing intimate partner violence at age 20, Julie was stalked by her ex-partner for over ten years, rarely mentioning it to friends, let alone addressing it publicly. The contrast between her public career as a brave champion for women with her own private life of violence and fear meant a shaky and exhausting balancing act.

Resilience sounds like a positive thing, so why do we often use it against women? Tenacity and bravery might help us survive unimaginable horrors, but where are the spaces for anger and vulnerability?

Resilience is Futile is a story of survival, courage and ultimately, hope. But it’s also a challenge to the ways we understand trauma and resilience. It’s the story of one survivor who won’t give up and refuses to shut up.

Julie S. Lalonde is an internationally recognized women’s rights advocate and public educator. Julie works with various feminist organizations dedicated to ending sexual violence, engaging bystanders and building communities of support. She is a frequent media source on issues of violence against women and her work has appeared on Al Jazeera, CBC’s The National, TVO’s The Agenda, Vice, WIRED magazine and FLARE, among others. She is a recipient of the Governor General’s Award in Commemoration of the Persons Case.

“Both fierce and vulnerable, Lalonde reminds us that healing is rarely linear and almost never final—but something always worth fighting for.”

- Lauren McKeon, author of “F-Bomb: Dispatches from the War on Feminism”

“Enraging. Heartbreaking. Utterly consuming.”

- Maha Zimmo, author of “rose-water-syrup”

A chilling insight into what it is like to survive under surveillance. Stalking has been a neglected topic in the #MeToo movement. This book is guaranteed to change that.

- Alex Leslie, author of “We All Need to Eat”

A chilling insight into what it is like to survive under surveillance. Stalking has been a neglected topic in the #MeToo movement. This book is guaranteed to change that.

- Mandi Gray, Activist and subject of the documentary “Slut or Nut: Diary of a Rape Trial”

“Lalonde’s brave new book is chilling, upsetting, and so very important.”

- Robyn Doolittle, “Globe and Mail” reporter and author of “Had It Coming: What’s Fair in the Age Of #MeToo?”

“Lalonde’s breathtaking memoir reignites the necessity of voice. She challenges the conversation around the way we hold and discuss trauma and pens the words with incredible clarity. Silent, she is not, and we are all better for it.”

- Chelene Knight, author of “Dear Current Occupant”

“Lalonde captures these moments of silencing, giving as much weight to her shame-fuelled decisions as the later journey of uplifting self-respect and sovereignty. These confessions convince us of the complicated, nuanced realities of being stalked, many of which are often dismissed as romantic or charming by those who are not privy to the fear they elicit.”

- Shazia Hafiz Ramji, Quill & Quire

When reading Resilience is Futile, you can’t help but be motivated by Lalonde’s ability to regain control of her own life while improving the lives of countless other women.

- Jessica Rose,


“Lalonde is an engaging writer who mixes humour and horror, irony and moments of acute, brutally honest self-awareness to open the door to a world that receives too little attention.”

- Matthew Behrens,


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